What Did the Groom Say? 116 Questions to Ask the Groom

How to play

Pick 15 to 20 questions. Any more and the room starts checking their phones.
Interview him a week or two before. Video is best, because his face when he hears “How much of the bed is hers, as a percentage?” is half the game. Film one clip per question so you can play them one at a time.
At the party, ask her first. She answers out loud, then click to his answer.
Keep score however the room likes. A point for every match is the classic.
Save a sweet one for last. The room will have been laughing at her for twenty minutes, and he gets to fix it.

Filming the groom

Ask the best man, a sibling or whoever he won’t perform for. Not the bride, obviously.
Film in one sitting, phone held sideways, somewhere quiet.
Tell him short answers are fine and a little teasing is expected. If every answer is straight, it’s a long night. Don’t show him the questions first. Read them to him cold, on camera, and keep his first answer.
If he won’t do video, read him the questions and write down what he says, word for word. The host reads his answers out during the game.
Name each clip with its number so it’s easy to drop into the slides.

Make your list

Tell us how far the questions can go and how many you want, and we’ll pull a list from all 116. Swap out any you don’t like, then print it for whoever is filming him, or take it to the TV as slides.

What are these two like?

Pretty normal A little odd Gloriously weird

How far can the questions go?

Wholesome Questionable Regrettable

How many questions?

10 15 20

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A few to start with

How it started

What did you get wrong about her when you first met?
What was your first impression of her?

Her, according to you

What does she order when she says she isn’t hungry?
What is the oldest thing in her bag right now?

The two of you

Who is in charge of the thermostat, and who thinks they are?
Which of you would get voted off a reality show first?

Home and habits

Which of your habits is she quietly trying to fix?
Which of her habits have you started doing yourself?

The wedding

What would the wedding look like if you planned it alone?
Which wedding decision took the longest?

The future

What will she still be complaining about at 80?
What’s the first thing she’ll make you get rid of when you move?

The sweet ones

When did you know she was the one?
What does she do that makes you proud?

See every question

How it started

What did you get wrong about her when you first met?
What was your first impression of her?
What did you wear on your first date?
Which of your friends did she win over first?
How many dates did it take before she laughed at one of your jokes?
What did she say the first time she saw your apartment?
What did she say when you proposed, word for word?
What do you think was her first impression of you?
Where did you two meet?
Who made the first move, according to her?
Whose idea was the first date?
Where was your first kiss?
How long did it take the other one to say “I love you” back?

Her, according to you

What does she order when she says she isn’t hungry?
What is the oldest thing in her bag right now?
Which song does she know every word to and pretend she doesn’t?
What does she do in the ten minutes after she says she’s ready to leave?
What would she grab first in a fire, after you?
What is the one thing she would never let you throw away?
What has she sworn off at least five times?
What’s her firmest opinion about something small, like towels?
Which of her stories have you heard more than ten times?
What does she do that she thinks you haven’t noticed?
What is she secretly competitive about?
What causes her most dramatic sigh?
What’s her coffee order, word for word?
What meal would she cross town for?
Which celebrity is she allowed to leave you for?
Which movie has she seen more times than she’d admit?
What does her perfect Saturday look like, hour by hour?
Which pet peeve could she give a speech about?
How many tabs does she have open right now, to the nearest ten?
What is she quietly keeping a list of?
What does she rank that nobody asked her to rank?
What does she do an impression of that nobody asked for?
What’s her official position on pigeons?
What is she convinced she invented?
Which stranger from years ago does she still bring up?
What small injustice is she still building a case about?
Which hobby of hers lasted less than a week?
What would she swear to in court, with no evidence at all?
Which grocery store is she boycotting?
What weather does she take personally?
Which of her minor ailments has the longest backstory?

The two of you

Who is in charge of the thermostat, and who thinks they are?
Which of you would get voted off a reality show first?
Who would last longer in the wilderness?
Which board game is banned in your house?
Who is more likely to get lost in a grocery store?
Who is the bigger baby when they’re sick?
Which of you is the planner?
Who apologizes first, and who apologizes better?
Which of your qualities are you most surprised she puts up with?
What does she think you’re worst at?
What does she do better than you that you’d never admit?
Who’s the better cook, according to her?
Who isn’t allowed to drive when you’re running late?
Which of you will be first on the dance floor at the wedding?
What does she spend money on and call an investment?
What’s your favorite boring thing to do together?
What will you two eventually be banned from, together?

Home and habits

Which of your habits is she quietly trying to fix?
Which of her habits have you started doing yourself?
Which piece of your clothing is she plotting to throw out?
What is she incapable of putting away?
How much of the bed is hers, as a percentage?
Which chore has she convinced you she’s bad at?
What does she rearrange after you’ve put it away?
What’s in the fridge that only she is allowed to eat?
What’s the most annoying thing you do that she has never mentioned?
What does she clean when she’s stressed?
Who has the final say on what you watch?
What object in your home has she given a name?
Which piece of furniture does she have the strongest feelings about?
What does she say to animals that she would never say to people?

The wedding

What would the wedding look like if you planned it alone?
Which wedding decision took the longest?
Which guest is she most nervous about?
What will your first married argument be about?
What is she already worried you’ll do at the reception?
Who will be crying first at the wedding, you or her?
Which part of the wedding has she already rehearsed in her head?
Which wedding detail has a backup plan for its backup plan?

The future

What will she still be complaining about at 80?
What’s the first thing she’ll make you get rid of when you move?
What’s on her ten-year plan that you haven’t been told about?
Which of her family traditions are you about to inherit?
What will she have you doing on your first anniversary?
Whose family is getting the first married holiday?
Which trip has she been dropping hints about?
Which town has she already picked for when you retire?
What will the neighbors call her in twenty years?

The sweet ones

When did you know she was the one?
What does she do that makes you proud?
What does she do for other people that nobody thanks her for?
What have you noticed about her that nobody else seems to?
What does she do when she’s nervous, and what do you do about it?
Which part of your life got better when she showed up?
What does she do that you hope never changes?

Questionable

What does she call you when nobody else can hear?
What’s the silliest fight you’ve ever had?
What’s her worst habit behind the wheel?
Which of your friends is she still deciding about?
Read us the last text she sent you, word for word.
Did you google her early on? What did you find?
What does she say about your friends after they leave?

Regrettable (still kind)

What is she hiding in her closet right now?
What did she look up about you before the second date?
What’s the pettiest thing she has ever done?
What has she said after two glasses of wine that she later denied?
What did she do the first time she met your parents that she still thinks about?
What’s the worst gift you’ve ever given her, according to her?
What did she tell her friends about you after your first date?
What’s the most she’s spent on something she used once?
What is she still not over from your first year together?
What’s the worst haircut she’s talked you into?

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Questions

How many questions should we ask?

Fifteen to 20. That’s about half an hour with clips, which is as long as a room will watch someone else’s fiancé on a phone.

Can we play without a video?

Yes. Read him the questions, write down what he says, and the host reads his answers out one at a time during the game.

What if there’s no groom?

It works the same with any partner. Call it What Did She Say, or What Did They Say, and use the same questions.

What’s the difference between this and Who Knows the Bride?

In Who Knows the Bride, the bride answers and the guests guess. Here, the groom answers and the bride guesses. Our Who Knows the Bride page has 230 questions for that one.

Is this a roast?

A mild one. Most of the questions tease her, a few are there to make her cry, and the generator mixes both.

Is this the same as the Newlywed Game?

Close. The Newlywed Game puts both of them on the spot at once. This one only puts her on the spot, which is the point. The shower version, where both of them answer and the guests guess, is He Said, She Said, and we have 73 bridal shower questions for it.