73 Free He Said, She Said Questions for a Bridal Shower

Before the shower

How to play

Ask the couple first. A week or so before, each of them answers every question on their own, without comparing notes. For each one they pick “me” or “them.”
Print a sheet for every guest. Guests circle who they think the couple picked.
Read the answers out. Read a question, then what each of them said.
A point for every match. If the couple gave different answers, everyone gets the point.
Stop at 20 or 25. There are presents to open.

Make your list

Tell us their names, how far the questions can go and how many you want, and we’ll pull a list from all 73. Swap out any you don’t like, then print a sheet for every guest or put it on the TV.

Their names (optional)

First name Second name

What are these two like?

Pretty normal A little odd Gloriously weird

How far can the questions go?

Wholesome Questionable

How many questions?

15 20 25

A few to start with

The beginning

Who made the first move?
Who was more nervous on the first date?

Day to day

Who is always cold?
Who reads the instructions?

At home

Who loads the dishwasher wrong?
Who is responsible for the decorative pillows?

Out in the world

Who makes friends with the waiter?
Who would win on a game show?

The wedding

Who cares more about the cake?
Who has opinions about the napkins?

The future

Who will want a pet first?
Who will plan the first anniversary?

The sweet ones

Who was more relieved when the other one said “I love you”?
Who is the better listener?

See every question

The beginning

Who made the first move?
Who was more nervous on the first date?
Who told their mother first?
Who had the more embarrassing apartment when they met?
Who knew first that this was serious?
Who brings up the first date more often?
Whose idea was the first-date restaurant?
Who arrived first to the first date?

Day to day

Who is always cold?
Who reads the instructions?
Who answers texts faster?
Who has hidden the remote on purpose?
Who takes longer to tell a story?
Who remembers everyone’s birthday?
Who has more unread emails?
Who gives more directions from the passenger seat?
Who says “five more minutes” and means forty?
Who narrates the movie while it’s playing?
Who stops to talk to other people’s dogs?
Who has a favorite spoon?
Who has argued with a smart speaker?
Who talks back to the GPS?
Who would win a staring contest with a cat?
Who sings a made-up song while doing chores?
Who says goodnight to the house?

At home

Who loads the dishwasher wrong?
Who is responsible for the decorative pillows?
Who would notice if a picture frame moved an inch?
Who leaves one bite of something in the fridge?
Who has a drawer nobody else is allowed to open?
Who makes the bed with the other one still in it?
Who has killed more houseplants?
Who keeps empty boxes in case they’re needed?
Who rearranges the furniture without warning?
Who follows a recipe exactly?
Who has named an appliance?

Out in the world

Who makes friends with the waiter?
Who would win on a game show?
Who packs for a weekend like it’s a month?
Who gets lost with the map open?
Who reads every review before booking anything?
Who starts a conversation in an elevator?
Who wants to leave the party first?
Who would last longer without a phone?
Who sends food back?
Who could talk their way out of a parking ticket?
Who knows the mail carrier’s name?
Who has a private ranking of the neighborhood dogs?
Who is in a long-running feud with a specific bird?
Who would last longer as a lighthouse keeper?
Who could get elected mayor of a very small town?

The wedding

Who cares more about the cake?
Who has opinions about the napkins?
Who will blame allergies when they cry at the wedding?
Who added more people to the guest list?
Who is practicing a dance move in secret?
Who will forget a guest’s name at the reception?
Who will try to start a conga line?
Who tasted more of the cake samples?

The future

Who will want a pet first?
Who will plan the first anniversary?
Who will be in charge of the holiday card?
Who will start a vegetable garden and abandon it?
Who will still be telling the same joke at 80?
Who will take up a hobby that needs a lot of equipment?
Who will run a small bakery, badly, in retirement?
Who will still be explaining the thermostat to the other one at 90?

The sweet ones

Who was more relieved when the other one said “I love you”?
Who is the better listener?
Who makes the other one laugh more?
Who takes care of the other one when they’re sick?
Who keeps the cards and notes the other one wrote?
Who saves the other one the last bite?

Putting this in a roundup? Link to the page, and your readers get the generator instead of a screenshot of it.

Or

Want the whole room playing from their phones?

Group Project makes a game show for bachelorettes that plays on the TV while everyone answers on their phones. We’re working on a shower version, and we’d love to hear what would work at yours.

Questions

Fine, ask us anything.

How does He Said, She Said work?

The couple answers the same questions separately before the shower, picking themselves or each other. At the shower, guests guess the answer to each one, and get a point for every match.

How many questions should we ask?

Twenty to 25. That’s about 20 minutes, which fits around opening presents.

Does it work for any couple?

Yes. Put their names into the generator and the sheets and slides use the names instead of “He” and “She.” Some people call it Who Said It.

Do they really have to answer separately?

Yes. The game runs on the questions where they disagree, and it only works if neither one has seen the other’s answers.

What’s the difference between this and What Did the Groom Say?

In What Did the Groom Say, only the groom answers, about the bride, and she guesses. Here, both of them answer, and the guests guess. Our What Did the Groom Say page has 116 questions for that one.

Can guests play on their phones instead of paper?

Paper works fine for this one. If you want a game the whole room plays from their phones, built from what everyone says about the bride, that’s Group Project.

Do you make a game for the bachelorette, too?

Yes, that’s our main game. Group Project is a game show for the bachelorette that plays on the TV while everyone answers on their phones. Before the party, guests answer a few questions about the bride, and the game turns their answers into five games.